WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 2

[confusedinpa]

Spellfire and Stuck,

I appreciate the comments on validation. She had actually described it to me as well on Monday nite, where she said if a child is hurt, rather than just telling her that it will be alright but saying "Ouch, that looks like it really hurts. I hope it will get better soon." I didn't really get the difference but I think I am now. It's hard for me to figure out what the "validation" is for some of her statements.

I guess hindsight is 20/20 but I am assuming that when she said that she just can't get past seeing me as the person who hurt her so badly, I should have said, that I know how painful that is since you've felt hurt for such a long time so I can see how you feel angry instead of just I see how angry that makes you feel.

I'm guess I'm still learning.

I'm really worried about this weekend. Normally, I spend a couple of hours with friends on Friday to help me destress/de-anxiety so I can make it through the weekend. Since she needs me to pick up both kids today, I can't do that. I hope I will make it through.

Any thoughts/comments will definitely help