She then made a comment about how she sees that I've changed, but some of the changes are making her wonder who is this person. She said that she's doesn't remember me ever acting like I am now. I asked her to explain as I didn't understand what she was talking about.
She said that in the past when she was sick, all I would do would is give her a hug to make her feel better. Now I show a lot of sympathy/empathy/emotion about how much I care and it concerns me. She also said I'm talking in softer tones now. It sounded like this was really confusing her. I'm not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing. Any comments?
This is one of the things that I'm struggling with as well. She isn't sure of who I am when I do the nice things. I had thought I was acting like I had when we first met, but now I'm not so sure. I guess, what's the "goal"? To become the person that she fell in love with when we first met (which I think was more selfish but confident and fun loving, it's actually been so long, I'm not sure if I remember) or to become the person that I think I need to be to show her that she has my full undivided attention and is important?
I think I know the answer to this one, but I'm just so confused at times.
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
