Okay an update: 1. I didn't give her brother all of the evidence, or even most of it. I just gave him 3 screencaps from the video to prove I wasn't full of crap. He doesn't know the extent of the evidence, but I promised him it was enough to hold up in front of a judge. 2. Last night my wife told me that I "couldn't keep my daughter anymore" that "her attorney had advised her I had to come to her house to see her" and other things. That is b.s. because that is a good way to lose custody. 3. This morning I walked up to her holding my phone recording video and asked her to hold up to her agreement for me to keep her Saturday. She acted subdued and told me it'd be fine. I asked why she hadn't been answering her text messages and she said she didn't have her phone. (odd because it has been tied to her hip since before we split) 4. I spoke with her brother for a bit, talking about my desire to work on the marriage, etc. Apparently he confronted her with his mom and she came clean. So my assumption is that they've taken away her cell phone and put her on curfew basically. 5. I sent a followup email to share with his mom my 5-point plan for working on the marriage, and a desire to not hold anything over her head but to see if we could work through it.
I'll wait to hear back.
Either way - at this point I'm wanting to just sit back and let the legal issue continue until they tell me they want something different. If it continues they already know what I have.
So... assuming the affair ends, my wife may or may not decide to go to counseling. If she doesn't come clean with me, and decides to pursue divorce I was already prepared for that. But hopefully this changes the dynamic.
My evidence at this point is staying with me and my attorneys.
"You can't reason someone out of a position they didn't reason themselves into."
