Just take it really slow and keep expectations and hope out of it. Remember to be upfront with him about how you feel and keep the focus on his actions and not him.
As I told you we men, or atleast me, can accept that my actions were/ are bad because they can be changed however if I am the one that is viewed as bad it changes everything, bruses my ego and causes me to shut down. Then it does not matter what or how you say something to me I will either not listen or fight you on it.
I believe your H probably will feel the same way, just speculating here. But there is a world of difference here trust me and you will get a more positive reaction from him if you make it out as his actions and not him. Semantics I know but if the results are positive then that is all that matters.
Have a great weekend, and thanks for all you help.
