One last question (and please don't let it get you anxious, remember you can handle this) when was the last time she took action on the formal process of getting a D?
She filed on Jan 9th. I was served on Jan 17th. We have a custody hearing that is scheduled on Jan 24th - that was set in motion when she filed on Jan 9th.
I think I see your point that she hasn't done anything although my therapist and lawyer feels that she is waiting for a custody agreement before she moves out.
I'm torn on this as my lawyer said that the custody hearing is not before a judge, but a meeting to see if she and I can come up with an agreement. My plan is to say that I really haven't given it any thought as I want to work this out. I'm afraid that will get her mad thinking I'm trying to control the situation. If I do that, it will be in front of a judge a couple of months later. My other plan is to say that I want to get a lawyer to advise me, which will have the same result - that it will go in front of a judge in a couple of months.
Either way I'm worried she will just get mad. I had asked her to consider postponing it - she's the only one who can as she's the one who filed, but she declined saying that she wants one in case she decides she can't stay in the same house any longer.
Very bad and sad
Me 41 WAW 36 S 3&7 M 10 yrs W files D 1/9/09 W moves out 4/18 Lost job 6/15 New job 7/27 Disc PA 8/10 (started Nov 2008!) Confronted 8/11 Admits PA & appologies for hurt 9/11 Lost Job 11/13
