Playhouse

[Yoyowife]

I've had some major computer problems today. I had post all ready to go and I lost my connection before it would submit.

Thanks everyone for taking the time to offer suggestions. I agree with you all. I have to take more of stand and remove myself from him and stop receiving his crumbs.

You all are so important to me and I value you all.

Didi,
I had a really good timeline for you, but lost it so I'll take another shot at it.

10/06 - H informs me he wants out that he hasn't been happy for a while. I noticed he had been withdrawing, but I thought it was all in my head. Yes, we do bury our heads. I asked him if there was someone else and he said no. He moved out the next day. He moved into his office building. We own the business. I do not work there.

11/06 - He starts coming around some.

12/06 - My friend hears from someone else that he is having affair with his secretary.

1/07 - Ow's H calls me and tells me that he had a PI to follow his wife and found out she was having affair with my H. We compared notes and found out that his wife had kicked him out of the house 4 days prior to my H moving out. The PI had video of my H sneaking to the OW's H after son was in bed. Yes, they were having sex right across the hall from 8 year old boy.

H and I continue seeing each other off and on during this time. I thought he would see I was the "better" choice. Unfortunately, he thougth the best choice was having two women.

6/07 I receive D papers in the mail.

8/07 I see H had a DD's ballgame for the first time in almost 3 months. I did not speak to him. That Monday was Labor Day. He called to tell me he needed to change oil in DD's car. He could have called her cell, but he called me instead. He also volunteered to change mine. We starte seeing each other again periodically.

12/07 We decide to try to work things out. On Christmas day he goes to tell his mother. She gets mad at him (she and OW became big buddies) and tells him it will never work. He listens to his mother and decides it won't work.


I foolishly continue to let him come around.

4/08 We attend charity benefit. We stay at his house afterwards. I wake up around 3:00 am and snoop on his phone. The OW had called him numerous times with the last time being at midnight. I angrily call her and tell her to leave him alone on his phone. She wouldn't believe it was me. She thought it was our DD16! How stupid! I woke H up to confirm it. He got furious that I snooped. He said I probably cost him a secretary. I said that's okay she cost me my marriage.

We go two weeks without talking. He calls up and makes all kind of promises including of firing OW. We go out of town for the weekend. He of course did not fire her. He said he was afraid of lawsuit. He wanted her to quit on her own...

6/08 Divorce comes up for review. He calls it off telling L we are working on reconciliing.

He is hot and cold during all of this time.

8/08 We go to DD's football game. OW calls on our way home. I of course am furious. I know if she is calling, it means they are probably still seeing each other. But of course the next day he smooths it over with me.

He continues with his hot and cold behavior.

12/08 H buys me new Yukon Denali for Chrismas. H tells me that he does not see OW outside of work and hasn't for a while.

1/09 SuperBowl- We go to friends. Afterwards we go home. DD has friends over. H is showing them hunting pics on his cell phone and it shows that OW is calling. I do not say anything to him because I don't want to argue in front of kids. One of the boys asked DD later who that was that called.

This past Wed. I get a call from OW H's telling me that his son who lives with his mom said that my H was at their house the previous Thursday night.

I had to see my H that night because he needed the title to a car we were selling. I did not bring up the OW. I didn't say much at all as a matter of fact. When I got ready to leave he stood up and hugged and kissed me bye.

So that's my whole pathetic story...