WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 2

[MrBond]

What SF said.

While last night's progress was good, don't overanalyyze again. Her mood could change from hour to hour.

Keep up the giving her space. For me validation means to agree with what she says she believes and just apologize for the instances that she says she was the most hurt.

The reason for validation is to not contradict her beliefs. Once you do that, they start getting defensive. So even if you know something is not true, just agree and then move to another topic.