Anyway I am backing off on Dan. He is not 'scheduled' to see the kids until Monday so I will let them call him in the evenings but I won't contact him at all.
Ok..question here?? are the kids asking to call him??? Or is Dan calling them??? OR are you asking the kids if they want to call him??
The deal has always been, when Dan travels for work in the past anyway, that either he calls the kids or they call him to say goodnight. At one point we had a discussion where he said it made more sense for the kids to call and say goodnight b/c whoever was home with the kids knew when they were ready to go to bed.
So while I was gone for my convention this week, Dan had the kids call me each night. When I have the kids, I have been having them call him each night.
ok..I feel ya on that...with the agreement you have it will make it difficult for Dan to miss what he had..
in other words..there is a high probability that your youngest would not ask to speak to Dan on the phone now..at least mine does not..mine is very phone phobic...I can see where your oldest might ask...
so the kids have no set bed time?? or the times vary?? see where I'm going here??
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At one point we had a discussion where he said it made more sense for the kids to call
I would think that a dad that misses his kids would call
I'm a firm believer that the WAS, when they decide to quit..then they should lose what they once had..and things should not be made easier for them. They certainly do not work while they are deciding to leave..once they leave then I think that they need to work or flounder..in all aspects of their relationships..whether it be as a parent..job..or possibly reconciling..
