It is good to hear from you again. I've thought about just letting it go, but it should end up several thousand dollars in my favor, so I'm going to pursue it.
I know it will just give her another reason to be upset, but when I see the figures, I can always decide at that point how much I'm willing to negotiate for. However, I don't want to leave money on the table, especially if it could get up into the $10K+ range as my pension is horrible and her's is solid and guaranteed.
On the statement of why I'm missing my XW, I think you are completely correct and the want to be w/ my D is the real reason I'm sad right now. I too believe in time I'll feel lucky to be away, but it is difficult convincing my heart of that right now.
The key for me is to get everything finalized so I can just worry about me and not what will or will not piss her off on any given day.
