I didn't read your previous posts. Wow, I must say that I think even less of your wife than I did. She didn't just leave you; she left the kids as well. What a catch! Where can I find a woman like that?! (NOT).

Honestly, she should be crawling thru broken glass begging for you back, not the other way around. As suggested above, go dark. Be busy with the kids to the point you aren't around to answer the phone. If she does call, hand it off to the kids without saying hi. Don't return e-mails. Don't answer texts unless they relate entirely to the kids.

There is an upside here. Even though I know it hurts them, at least you have the kids. She abandoned her motherly responsibility, which is essentially giving you custody without a fight. That's great for you. I wish that had happened for me.

P.S. Although I know it may feel as though going dark will just push her further away, just look at how you feel right now. You want what you can't have. When she feels that you are no longer hers for the asking (and she shouldn't be), she may experience the same longing.

Last edited by Phoenixdeux; 02/13/09 05:29 PM.
You cannot be lonely if you like the person you're alone with. Dr. Wayne Dyer