Late night posts... mine have usually been either reflective or raucous depending on the point in the timeline!
Originally Posted By: lodo
Divorce means you've lost a piece of yourself. You're alone and unsure and, quite frankly, scared.
Well, yes, but I think it takes some time before you can actually quantify what it is that you lost. Early on, for me, it felt more profound. After some time I've been able to come to the realization that the majority of what I THOUGHT I lost is actually a welcome change, I was truly able to get rid of a weight that was dragging me down and altering the person I knew I was.
Now, I feel like the most important thing that I've lost is the overall quantity of time I spend with my children. However, due to the removal of the bad behavior of my X, I know that I am spending more QUALITY time with my children and I'm able to be a MUCH better parent to them.
Throw in the things I miss about being "married" and some relationships that have subsided do to my not being there anymore. But... new joys are taking the place of those and in essense it is no different than moving towns.
It's all gonna be good Lodo! Trust me! Go ahead and start looking forward to it, even though you might not actually know what it is yet!
