Pay attention now, you are starting to understand something very important: detachment makes all the world of difference in how well you can love another person, and how intimate you can really be. Detachment isn't opposed to love and intimacy, it is instead part of better love and deeper intimacy.
Pay attention now, you are starting to understand something very important: detachment makes all the world of difference in how well you can love another person, and how intimate you can really be. Detachment isn't opposed to love and intimacy, it is instead part of better love and deeper intimacy.
Well said!
Thread #10 22 year M, MLC, Piecing since 1/07 Goal: Live with confidence & enthusiasm!
I know... It’s a three day weekend. I will be moving the mattress son sleeps on that is on the floor to clean the carpets..... No use putting it back in right? Son will be back in his bed by Monday
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
I know it is cheating but day 3 of my love day is tomorrow..
Whatever you put your time, energy, and money into will become more important to you. It’s hard to care for something you are not investing in. Along with restraining from negative comments, buy your spouse something that says, “I was thinking of you today.”
Doc
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
It's valentines day.. I got up at 5:00 am to get my wife some roses. But at the store I started thinking that I am looking at this journey as "dating" my wife all over again since we were so close to a separation. I thought that if I gave roses to a woman that was unsure she wanted to date me right off it would scare her away. So instead I bought her a pink (her favorite color) Hydrangea, It came in a pink flower pot made to look like an old bucket. It had a small balloon heart on top that said "I love You" and had a bunch of hearts hanging from the branches. I bought a card that said "having you for a valintine makes me smile" It had a picture of a bull dog on the front with a big smile.
It was on the counter in the kitchen when she got up this morning. I was sitting at the table eating. She came in the kitchen and then turned around and walked right out. I thought to myself that I may have pushed our working on the marriage a little too far. I know in the past sometimes we are getting along great but if I push intimacy into the picture Wife would back off and become withdrawn again.
But I did not let this affect my attitude. I finished eating and then went into my shop to work on my jeep, I little while later she into the shop and said "thank you for the flowers, I really like them...I was half asleep when I walked into the kitchen before and I didn't even see them......
So she did notice, She liked them, She did not back off like in the past when I "pursued" her with something intimate and right now she is still happy.....and did not become withdrawn..
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
