Have you seen the thread that Corrie set up for you? I expect I'll keep checking it myself. I've skimmed over your "Jekyl & Hyde" thread and there is an eerie similarity. BTW, the libido-lowering drug route only partially works (I've tried it); yes, you can get to sleep faster, but it doesn't seem to help the emotional component -- which at least for me is really the larger issue at this point. And on the rare occasion she actually feels like doing something, you may not be able to get all the way there yourself. Of course, when that happened to me, my wife's response was "Don't worry; it's no big deal." From her point of view, she was absolutely correct.
HERE is Edward Bear, coming downstairs now, bump, bump, bump, on the back of his head, behind Christopher Robin...sometimes he feels that there really is another way [of coming downstairs], if only he could stop bumping for a moment and think of it.