Yeah, DB'ing is more about you and very little about the WAS noticing or not --- nice if they do. My mom used to always say "not to wish my life away" --- that's when I couldn't wait for time to go by until something wonderful would happen. I don't blame you for wanting the D to just get finished, but I would advise to not wish your life away. Be in the present, even if it's painful 'cause it's what will allow you to know the difference between true happiness and utter misery and finding a little in each despite going through one or the other. I hope I'm making sense here. Yikes! I did have my brain operated on recently so .....!
I understand what you're saying. And you're right--best just to be in the moment and deal with it, otherwise I will end up continuing to deal with it for a long period of time.
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012
