In my sitch, I started taking care of all the things that went wrong while my H was gone. He would ask when he showed up how it got fixed. After a while he would ask if anything needed to be done while he was here. I would tell him and then I would tell him I would do it. Low and behold it would get fixed by him. I think it bothered him that I could do things without him and he needed to feel needed.
Also after he left, he would always say your house, your car etc. Then one day it started with the we, ours and together.
