That was very well stated. When my W left, I was down lower than I could imagine. After months of being down on myself, I found the strength to make myself a better person. I realized that this happened because she left. As you said, I went on a quest to find myself. And I like what I've found. Apparently, so did she. She came back to me after 16 months of separation. However, if she didn't come back, I was already prepared for that. Because I loved who I was.
I didn't realize the person I had become during our M. Over time, we develop an arrogance, a feeling of invincibility. unfortunately, in my case, it took my W leaving to humble me. It took a while to get to the acceptance phase. At that point, I did thank my W for pushing me in the right direction. And, although I know there are people on this board who don't agree with me, I found myself admiring my W for having the strength courage to leave something she was not happy with. As much as people like to believe it's easy to do, for the WAS, it may take a tremendous effort.
I will always be thankful for my W. Thankful for the time she has given me, thankful for the push she gave me, thankful for coming back, and thankful for our future together.
Trapt, I pray for you that she will find the courage to find out how you can repay her. And then, she can thank you.
God Bless
PoohBear
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
