Hi everyone, I haven't checked in for the last few days because I went to surprise my dad. And you guys surprised me by posting so many supportive messages to me,what a nice return surprise!
I am still at my dad's. He and Mom were so happy and surprised to see me and D. it was a hoot! We laughed all night and had a feast for his birthday! Staying for a while to be with him. Dad hasn't mentioned H at all, I know he is heart-broken that my M is so messed up. He thinks of H as his son so I know my dad is hurting inside. They never telephoned each other but whenever they got together they would have a few drinks and my dad would talk about his good old days and my H would listen. This happened maybe once a year but it was special for my dad. I really appreciated H for listening to him and sharing his memories. Me, just as a comparison, not as a boast. My H would call his Mom every week and we would conference call, the three of us, and talk together. Every week, for more than an hour. So I was a good daughter-in-law as well. Now everything is shattered and I feel bad for my dad because I know he still loves my H but can't believe what he has done. My dad want to fix us (because he is male and head of the family) and to do that he starts by pointing out ways that I could improve. It got to a point where it was driving me crazy. I don't want my R with my dad to deteriorate as well so now I don't talk about my M to him anymore.
So now I act 'as if' here at my dad's house as well. I want to bring joy to my parents but I can't talk about my M anymore, it just gets me down.
H e-mailed me today to say that S is doing well at home. I didn't reply.
Me:39 H:40 S:9 D:7 First Bomb ONS:June 07 Second Bomb OW: March 08 Separated: March 08 M:15 yrs T:18 yrs H deep into A with OW Achieved ACCEPTANCE May 30, 09
