Wife's rushing us into a divorce

[Can it work]

Nerfus, glad you found your way in to the Newcomers section. I've just actually replied to your thread in the WAS section. I'll just copy and paste it below to save you going back to try and find it:

Good Morning Nerfus. Hope you're getting on ok today? I was just wondering, when you say your DB book is having to come from the US, where are you? If you're in the UK, you can get MWD's books from Amazon. That's where I got my copy of DR. I haven't read Divorce Busting because from what I understand, Divorce Remedy is an updated version. That's why I read that one.

Does your W have any right to kick you out of your marital home? If you are in the UK I would doubt it. Whatever you do, don't give in and leave willingly. Your W was dead right when she said that because she's the one who wants to leave, she should be the one to move out. Don't be a doormat for her to walk all over. Also, she can't get a divorce before 2 years unless there's adultery or unreasonable behaviour involved. Both have to be proved to a court. You've indicated neither of those within your post. Even at 2 years, you have to consent to the divorce. If you don't consent to the D after 2 years, your W will have to wait 5 years until she can get the D without consent. That's English and Welsh law anyway. Scotland is less time but the same kind of ideas.

Try to keep a positive mental attitude (PMA) Nerfus. I know it's really hard but I'm talking from experience when I say that it does get easier. I'm only slightly further down the road than you. Possibly because I found this site before you did. Every day I feel better about myself and being here to vent my frustrations helps immensely. I still have my bad days but on the whole, these are getting less. Good luck.

Kev

I'll also add from reading your replies on here so far that although your W may very well have someone else, that's definitely not always the case. Just bear that in mind. My W never had anyone else yet she pretty much gave me the same talk at the same time as you got yours. She's not been abusive as you say your W has but other than that it all sounds very similar.