<<Dare I say abuse is flying in both directions. So you are BOTH not emotionally healthy and assertive enough as a result.
Sorry, but you're wrong here.
<<but there's probably some validity in your H's perceptions of you
<<The IC will mostly validate him.
what would be wrong with the IC validating him if there is some validity in his perceptions ??
<<Its bad enough you have Doc doing this for you.
Doc has 25 years experience in cognitive behavioral therapy. He doesn't validate my incorrect or unhealthy "perceptions" he helps me change my behavior so that my unhealthy patterns that haven't worked for me in the past, are replaced with healthy positive behaviors.
Doc is good. He's very good. I've been to several therapists over the past 18 years. He knows his stuff.
keep up the dialogue tho, it helps me to know where there are chinks in my armor.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
