Purple, before 2 days ago, he did not "want" to go to any C.
We did have a conversation several days ago, I'm not exactly sure which day, but he asked me "what if I go back to J & she says I'm healthy, or what if I go once a month".
In my opinion, he was still trying to negotiate down my request. Which is fine.
Doc has taught both of us..... give enough information so the other person knows where you're coming from, make a specific request. Then the other one can answer.... yes, no, maybe, or it sucks to be you.
Basically H was always answering "it sucks to be you" by his non-action.
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
