Aww, what the he11. Been awhile since a late night ramble.
tonight, what is divorce?
Divorce is, first and foremost, tearing away the preconceptions that society has for you and that you have for yourself. As others have written, it is the death of a dream, the death of the idea that there will be a happy ending. Divorce is the moment when we acknowledge our weaknesses, and decide how far we'll go in forgiving the weaknesses of others.
Divorce is one of those defining moments when we come face to face with ourselves and try to decide what the next step will be - it could be in any direction. There isn't any judgement anymore, no expectations, no hopes, no fears. It simply is what it is and we make of it what we make of it.
Divorce means you've lost a piece of yourself. You're alone and unsure and, quite frankly, scared. This is hardly the time to reinvent, yet that's what the advice books say. Ultimately, you'll get there. Usually without realizing it. The days become weeks, the weeks become months. Routines change, memories fade, new interests grow.
It's all part of the great pageantry of life.
So, in which direction will your step lie?
Me? For the moment I'm sticking close to home. The familiar calms me. But every week finds me more willing to test the waters, try new and different things. If that leads to meeting a new companion, great. But that meeting will be through the context of my interests and not what society expects. No longer what is expected.
