One of the first things lawyers ask (especially of women) is if they're threatened by physical abuse and/or harm. If she attacks you, you call the police.
Treat her like a cat. Let her come to you.
In the meantime, spend time with your daughter. She misses her daddy. Focus on the positive, on renewing you. Marriages don't get to this point without having a slow continuous slide. When she vents, just listen, don't talk. Do the "I can see how you feel that way." even if you get defensive. She wants to be heard.. listen... just listen.
You'll find lots of folks here read read read... Hold onto your N.U.T.S is a guy favorite, along with Divorce Remedy, The Four Agreements, His Needs Her Needs, The Five Love Languages. Ready2Change compiled a list of books he's found helpful:
