been a bit since I posted to you, but I've been reading.
Originally Posted By: lovenomatterwhat
I feel that what I did is not repairable. That I will never be good enough for her.
Okay, now we know your state of mind and it doesn't sound like one capable of healthy decisions.
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...Well, she took it that I was trying to belittle her friend and told her that I had nothing again him. She then proceeded to tell me that I was lying and that I hate her best friend.
Why on earth would someone be so concerned about whether another person hates their friend? Because they feel guilty about that friend, that's why. If you like the friend, then she gets everything she wants to be happy. If you don't go along, then the picture isn't so rosy and she needs to make hard choices. My advice? Whatever you do, just be consistent. If the friend has a bad credit score, tell her you could hate him or love him but that won't change what the banks think about him. Also, you may want to not get sucked into these kinds of conversations, they clearly aren't productive.
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I truly understand why she would be offended and I should have just let her win her argument (better to be happy than to be right)
Lame. IMO you just blew it. Why can't you have an opinion? Why are you willing to grovel? Do you think that's attractive? I mean, you're right - better to be happy than be right, but that doesn't mean to be a doormat. Now she knows you won't stand up for what you think is best for her. My advice, stand up for your beliefs, whether that wins your X back or not.
this wasn't intended as a 2x4, but don't lose yourself. Women like men who are confident and self-aware and I don't think you're exhibiting those traits.
