What do yo want? You seem to be obsessing over what he could or couldn't have done on a particular day, hour or minute. You are rationalizing and minimizing his relationship with the OW (aka the skank).
Are you willing to go on this way? Can you live your life taking crumbs from him and trying to put them together into a cookie that you call your marriage?
A very wise friend of our on these boards, who is noticable absent as of late, once told me in very graphic terms what my CXW was doing with the FFOM when they were together. It shocked me to my core to read, but it also showed me how little respect I had......for myself. I was willing to take the smallest of actions as signs of positive progress and yet ignore the other things.....giving up all of my self-respect in the process....
Don't do this to yourself....it delays and magnifys the hurt.
If one of your daughters was going through what you are enduring, what would your advice to them be? I don't know too many moms who would advise their child that their best course of action is to forego their self-respect to indulge a selfish, self absorbed adulterer.
Yoyo, as Kat says, you are going to do fine....you are, probably better than fine.
Me: 44 S: 17 and 7 Final-6-13-08 I once went to a psychic who told me I would soon feel cheated......
