WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 2

[confusedinpa]

Everyone here is always a voice of reason, hope and calm in this sea of chaos I'm in. My wife on her facebook page put down last Thurs - why does life have to be so complicated. I couldn't agree with her more.

I managed to achieve a calm and enjoy life attitude as I got home after picking up my son from school. My wife came home and I didn't offer a hug or a kiss. We had a nice dinner and talked like we had the last couple of weeks.

She brought up that her friend wanted to go to happy hour for my wife's B'day next week. I said that sounded fun (last year I got all mad about it since that was the day I had just come back from a weeklong trip). We then talked about how we hadn't gone to happy hour since our second son. I asked her if she wanted me to just pick up both kids or if she wanted me to go and leave early to pickup the kids or if she wanted to ask her mom to pick up both kids.

She said that I could go and go when it was time to pick up the kids since she wanted to ask her mom to watch the kids that Sat so we can go out for her Bday and celebrate a late Vday as well as on Mon so we can both go to counseling. I said that sounded like a good plan. Now I'm thinking I should just not go and let her have the space. I'm sure I can figure out how to get out of it.

We then talked some more and I wound up giving her a hug from behind and kissed her on the neck. We swayed a little while we did that the she turned and asked me to crack her back with a hug.

I know I have to keep up a postive attitude and keep on enjoying life. I do resolve to pick up one of your books tomorrow

Thanks for all your encouragement and advise!