Thanks for that Kev. I've got a copy of Divorce Busting on its way to me but not sure how long it'll take to get here as obviously its coming from USA.
I gotta admit that when she first dropped the bombshell I did a hell of a lot of things I shouldn't like plead with her and get her to try and see reason but as she's told me recently its had the opposite effect of just pushing her further away. I've done a lot of reading and research lately and realised that I shouldn't have done this so for the last couple of weeks I've played it as cool as possible, although its killing me, and just tried to be pleasant with her and get on with things. People told me months ago that thats how I should act but suppose I thought that by trying to talk it through with her we'd be able to sort it out. WRONG!
She just seems like a runaway train at the moment, a bit of a loose cannon, and seems hell bent on hurtling towards a divorce as fast as she can. Her inital thoughts were for us to have a legal seperation but she's changed her mind now cos she says she cant divorce me for another 2 years then. She also said that she would never force me to leave my own home cos as its her decision to break up she should be the one to move out, she's looked around and found out that she cant afford to do that so changed her mind on this one as well and is gonna get me kicked out! It all just seems to have happened so fast! We went on holiday to Spain at the end of September and things before and during seemed like wedded bliss but then just a few weeks after getting back all this kicked off and now just a few months later she's ready for divorce.
I'll look out for those guys that you mentioned and have a read through what they've posted, any one who can offer me good advice is exactly what I'm after at the moment as despite all thats gone on recently I still love my wife to bits and want us to come out of this intact.
I know it's gonna be hard but suppose we all just have to keep faith and remain focussed on what we really want!
