I need to move out of my place this weekend. Haven't landed new employment yet. Will keep trying. I was on the verge of moving out of the area, at my parents invitation (talk about embarrassing and humbling!), but decided to approach XW to ask her for help. After a day of considering it, she agreed to allow me to stay with her for two months to get back on my feet. I simply said thank you, without telling her my concerns about the incredibly short duration of her offer. XW said that she knew that I would help her in the same situation and I always had in the past. The upside is that XW was actually paying attention to my kindness displayed towards her. Although, it could be that she broached the subject with whichever friend of hers is the confidante of the day and heard some advice that helped her decide to assist me. Regardless, XW didn't have to extend herself, no matter how many times I've helped her out previously.
My last stint staying with her, at her request due to DH #3 (the little criminal), didn't go particularly well. I saw a side to her that was neither good nor kind. I will try to abide by her 'rules' to the letter and help out around the house and with our children without being asked. I really only need a place to stay and more time to chase employment. I hate needing help, most of all from her, but I must say that I am pleasantly surprised that she stepped up to the plate to offer. DBing from inside her house and from a position of need. NOT the ideal situation, now is it?
Oh well, I don't want to b!tch about what is. Makes much more sense to deal with what is to the best of my ability with my eyes on the present and my focus on a better future for me and my children.
Letting Go Tom; JUST DO IT! previously hopeful_husband
my A: Fall 05 W found out: Feb 06; separated immediately W pursued D, final 7/11/07
