That's what I meant when I said I give up, K. I will not initiate any more talks, ever. It just sucks. Never accomplishes anything.
The closing was terrible. I had to sign off on it b/c in Iowa, since we are still married, I had to sign on to the house. If he ever sells it I am apparently entitled to my share?
Anyway he did not put me on the loan or anything else, I was just supposed to have to sign whatever a spouse signs...
Well we get there at 2:30 and I have 25 minutes to get it signed and get back to work b/c I have dismissal duty at school at 3:00.
The lady is in doing another closing, we don't get in there until 2:45. Dan is already pissed b/c they are taking so long and he doesn't want me to get in trouble at work.
So we sit down and get out our pens and he tells the financing lady that I have to get gone in ten minutes. She says no problem, you only have to sign a few things. Then she starts unstacking all the paperwork. "Oh, no. They have you on everything" she says.
Well Dan called of the closing in December b/c I was on the paperwork and he didn't want me on it, or at least didn't think I would want to be on it. Apparently they made the same mistake this time....
Well I was already midway through signing the other stuff so I just signed everything. I know it was a bonehead move on my part but I just wanted to get out of there and I didn't want to be "the reason" he lost this house TWICE.
So I was signing it all but freaking out inside b/c if i am attached to this house then that will affect my credit rating, my ability to get a car loan next year, our future divorce settlement, etc etc etc....
I cried on the way back b/c the whole thing just sucks.
Then Dan called about ten minutes ago. Said he went off on the closing people after I left and they called the guy he made the deal with, and that guy confirmed that I wasn't supposed to be on the loan. So, they tore up all the parts of the paperwork that Dan didn't want me on, and I am back to just being a co-title-holder. He is going to try to close on the house tomorrow now, with the new paperwork drawn up.
Yuck
I don't consider him buying the house the end to our chances, a house is just a house. He has to live somewhere.
I consider his complete and total lack of any reaching out to me beyond a couple of text messages to be the part that says it just isn't gonna happen for us...
