Thanks for the support and affirmation. Yes, I agree she is manupulative and is inappropriate in her use of our D as a pawn in the finalizing of our D.
Unfortunately, Kalni, you are so very correct as she just doesn't seem to give up. Why the need to still "punish" me? She has all she wants and got her divorce. I just don't get it and probably never will.
Anyway, here is the e-mail I just received from her:
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"I wish there was another way to do this"?
There is another way to do this. I told you what it was in my previous email: you keep your retirement and I keep mine. We can make it "official" by writing a document that says something to that affect, and then signing it in front of a notary. Easy and cheap.
Let me know what you chose to do.
My reply:
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The only way for us to officially close the books is to have the pensions evaluated by a pension attorney. Anything less would leave doubt and questions, so unfortunately that is the way we need to go.
I'll let you know before I start the process with the pension attorney and if you decide to shop around to find someone else, let me know. As I said, I only was able to contact three, but (pension attorney) was by far the cheapest.
She doesn't want this to happen and I've stood my ground. She'll continue to be angry and drag her feet on her end, so I'll just get the ball rolling for me and then continue to stress the "business side of things" to get her in gear.
With my luck, I'll end up owing her. But even if I do, I'll feel better knowing than not knowing the outcome. So, the evaluation is a necessary evil and will be the last card to fall.
But even if I do, I'll feel better knowing than not knowing the outcome. So, the evaluation is a necessary evil and will be the last card to fall.