Alot of people are very impressed with your insight and advice.
That being said, don't worry what people might think, you have great advice, it would be a crying shame if you didn't post it because you, stupidly, thought you shouldn't or were too preachy, or long winded.
Mach is right, this is how you pay back.
Thank you, Jack.
And while I know that Mach is right, I still stand by what I said to Trapt- I can never hope to repay.
But posting is a beginning.....
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
I came home last night to find the light that I purposely leave on in my stairwell turned off. Guess who's been home? I guess W decided to wait for me to come home since there was also a small potato chip bag in the kitchen trashcan. But since I was out with friends GALing, I didn't get home until about 10. I don't know whether the letter that she left me along with the credit card bill for the auto insurance charge was written before she came over or after, but here is the 2 page letter:
Dear [Jimbo],
I know you asked me to give you space and to not contact you and I have tried to do that. I hope you'll forgive me for breaking the silence now. I thought it was time for me to get the rest of my things. I tried to only get the things that were clearly mine, If you such as my mom's spice rack and my old toys and mementos. If you find something missing that you believe is yours, I'm happy to discuss it with you. I also wanted to give you warning that you will be receiving papers, the property settlement agreement, soon in the mail. It is my hope that we can settle this quickly and amicably. As you will see, all I'm asking for is my own personal property, the [car she is presently driving] and half of the retirement money, which I believe to be a total of $[X]. We should also have a discussion very soon on how to get the stuff ready to send to the accountant for taxes. I intend to file as married filing separately. I want you to know that it was never my intention to hurt you and I do truly believe I am and will be happier on my own. I hope that you can come to see this soon and be happy for me. I also hope, for your sake, that you accept this and move one and find someone who can truly love you back with the intensity that you love her. You deserve this. I will leave it to you to contact me about the taxes. I have left the [credit card] bill on the center stand. Since that one is in my name it would be better if you stopped using it in future. The bonus check I received from [work] at Christmas should cover my half of the [auto insurance] bill. I will get my own policy before the next one comes due. I don't know what else to say to you except that I am sorry even though you don't believe it now.
Take care of yourself,
[W]
Most all of her stuff was gone, except a few books and one stuffed animal of hers. Conspicuously PRESENT was a photo album and packet of pictures laying on top of one of the boxes in the closet that stored our pictures. I don't recall if the photo album was packed or not (probably was- she wouldn't take anything that reminded her of us with her). All I know is that I didn't leave it there.
The photo album contained the pictures from our honeymoon.
PATIENCE AND FORTITUDE CONQUER ALL THINGS. -Ralph Waldo Emerson
DBing and MLC take their toll....Please provide exact CHANGE. -Jimbo
Not much too say after that, but I am sorry . Hurts.
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Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I am so sorry about this. I wish I had some words of wisdom for you as you have helped me out a lot.
I will tell you that tomorrow is another day.
No matter what any of us are going through right now, we are destined to have bigger, brighter and better futures. We may not think this now but we will. One foot in front of the other, one day at a time.
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