Wife announces divorce out of the blue!

[Can it work]

Nerfus, I'm sorry to see you here in your sitch. My sitch is very similar sounding to yours as are many you will find on these boards. The spooky thing is that mine happened around the same time.

First of all, to get more reponse you may want to start posting in the Newcomers section. Next thing to do is to buy the Divorce Remedy book. Read it thoroughly and start applying the principles contained in it immediately.

I'm still coming to terms with my WAW (Walk away wife) but with the support I've been getting on these boards and the principles contained in the DR book, I'm slowly coming to terms with my situation. Don't get me wrong, I still very want to get my W back but the main goal someone in our situation has to work on is becoming comfortable with yourself.

There are a few basic principles to Divorce Busting which you will here repeated on these boards time after time. Take note of them and follow that advice. It's invaluable. There are still plenty of people on here posting who have come out of the other side with a stronger relationship than they had before. The two that spring to mind immediately are Coach and Saffie. Look them up. They are very wise with their advice and always willing to give someone support. Also, look up Sandi2. She has compiled a fantastic list of do's and don'ts in divorce busting.

Basically, what it boils down to is that you need to work on yourself. You are the only person who you have the ability to change so start working from there. GAL (Get a Life) by going out and starting a new hobby or catching up with old friends. Do some 180's. This means do something which is the complete opposite from what you would normally do.

Your W is lost at the moment and she needs to find herself. Make yourself in to someone she will want to come back to. You shouldn't believe half of the things she says to you. They're said out of anger and confusion. It's good that you already say that her words are like water off a duck's back. That's a great way to remain.

So, keep posting, find yourself, and don't lose heart. There are many success stories within these boards where you can go if you need some encouragement. Good luck on your journey.

Kev