I talked to my coach today. She said to make dinners every night, be totally involved with the kids. If W gripes about my dinners, just say you are welcomed.

She said go dark at home. Be friendly, but don't start conversations. Give as little info as necessary about stuff.

She said to go through legal aid and get palomony and child support. Basically make it as uncomfortable as possible for W to want to go through with it.

She basically said treat W like a house guest. If me and the kids are going to do something, ask her if she would like to also, if she doesn't want to, then fine.

I am going to get my girls stuff for Valentines day but my W nothing.

I hope I get this job so I can stay. But she did recommend if I go to Florida to go dark for 30 days and just talk with the girls. If I stay, go dark also.

Kevin

Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...