She is cake eating. She has to see what she is missing. She is involved with an OM. Don't stand in her way if she is wanting to moveout. It will only be perceived as control and pressure. She is getting all of her emotional connection and "love" feelings from OM right now. They aren't real. That has to stop before you can work on your R.
Drop the rope completley. It's the only way right now. It's damn hard and goes against everything you're feeling right now. The more you pursue the the more she will run... Take the time to become the man YOU want to be and that she can be attracted to. If the OM is what you are descibing it will blow up before too long. Especially if she starts seeing changes in you. Which although separated she will want to know what you are up to.
The more you try to hang on the more she will feel trapped and be unable to see the changes that can happen in you.
I am going through this myself. It is painful but DBing works. Sometimes it is necessary to separate to enable them to feel our absence.
Give her what she wants...Let HER move out on work on yourself...for you.
My thoughts,
Jeff
***Getting up every day and learning to breathe in a new me. For me and my children***
Me: 43 W: 38 SD-15 S(s): 12,9,7 Separated-2/14/2009 My sitch
