For me...I can see no good coming from saying either of those two phrases, it will just make her defensive since it comes across as she's to blame for YOUR feelings.
Me:40 W: 39 T: 17 years M: 15 years S-9 D-6 D final 11/10/2009
"We are all faced with a series of great opportunities brilliantly disguised as insoluble problems."
