{{{{{yoyo}}}}}} hugs... I know I sound like a broken record, but you have been DB for a long long time. You have gotten results but not the ultimate result of H leaving the OW FOREVER.
Need to go to Plan B -- totally dark with giving your H a letter explaining what he needs to do. As long as he can have you as a friend, lover, and have the OW -- he has no reason to change.
I don't want to come on this board 5 years from now and you are "still dating him".
If you decide to go this route let me know and I can give you some sample letters.
Only you know how long you can stay in limbo but from your tone it seems that you are starting to hate him instead of building love for him by his continued actions.
We are there for you no matter what. I have some updates that I will post to my sitch later today. We will keep praying.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
