Originally Posted By: confusedinpa

I stopped checking her temperature a couple of weeks ago. But I feel it's not working very well as she hasn't opened up.


Stopping taking her temperature is not about getting her to open up, but it can contribute to an environment where she will. It is going to stop you pushing her away. The only way you can get her to open up is to provide an environment where she feels safe to do so, and then provide the fuel by asking her an open ended question with no agenda attached to it, except that you want her tell you what she feels.

Two weeks is not long enough anyway. My guess would be that stopping temperature taking is working, it is just not showing on the surface.

Last edited by spellfire; 02/12/09 05:13 PM.
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