Two months into my wife's affair, I made a decision. I concluded that -- as hard as I'd tried (and I'd exposed to several people, and took a VERY hard line) -- I could not stop my wife from continuing her affair. She was an adult, and it was her choice.
But I decided that I COULD insist that she tell the truth. I was no longer willing to have her lie to those we both love -- mostly to our adult daughters and to her own parents, whom I respect and love dearly -- and, worse, make ME out to be the crazy one.
And so I told her: either you tell them the truth, or I will, and I will use the evidence that I have.
And I told her she had 5 minutes to decide.
She decided to go tell her parents, and I went with her and held her hand. It was the first time she had spoken to her mother in THREE WEEKS, and these are two women who talk by phone, or see each other, every single day of their lives. I told my wife is NOTHING else happened, she would stop lying and her relationship with her mother was going to be restored, even if her mother didn't agree with what she was doing.
As I've posted before, my wife THANKED me for all the things I did to fight for our marriage, INCLUDING exposing her affair to our adult daughters and to her parents.
