Hi Yellowrose, sorry to butt in and I know I cannot speak from the voice of having a H return. In fact my x was much like Cinders H and I know they are in the majority but I just wanted to gently give C a slap on the wrist for this...
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...does that mean I am not good enough to come back to, or is ow too good to be true, or is it truly a thing in our H's mind....
That is utter rubbish Cinders,you are more than good enough. I think and just my op. that sometimes they change so much and they just want different things than those we both started off with. All things change we are not the same people we were at 20yrs, life changes us, we grow and sometimes we do not grow in the same direction as our spouse,hense they leave. I also believe my x is /was a good man and as much as he hated hurting me/us he felt he had no choice and I think now he does love the OW and in his world they are happy. That has no bearing on my goodness or lack of it. We are not in competition (much as I felt I was and couldn't understand why he didn't see I was a million times better in all aspects, job, home maker, cook, hostess,mother etc). So sorry for the ramble YR but I am sure you can give your POV from a different perspective. Cinders, go wash your mouth out with soap and water!
