Trying to let go........with love!

[Silent Chrleader]

Thank you all, my dear friends.

I am sorry I have been so pissy recently!! They say it's always darkest before the dawn......so I'm sure hoping that this black cloud I seem to living under goes away soon!!!

I have this song running through my head......Some of you may remember the TV show HeeHaw? (Yes I'm dating myself here). Well, remember that song the men would sing while sitting on the porch.....??

GLOOM!! DESPAIR!! AND AGONY ON ME!!!
DEEP DARK DEPRESSION....EXCESSIVE MISERY!!
IF IT WEREN'T FOR BAD LUCK, I'D HAVE NO LUCK AT ALL!
GLOOM!! DESPAIR!! AND AGONY ON ME!!!

[glamgirl]

Yes, you see SC how you bring that on yourself. We have all been there. Oh my, I used to just sit by the computer and cry day after day.

I would try to suck s20 into it and then finally he would say mom you need to snap out of it. He would get all spiritual on me and get me to see another perspective.

Remember you are in control of your own life.

[Silent Chrleader]

Yes, you see SC how you bring that on yourself. ..

Yes, indeed I do!!

...Remember you are in control of your own life.

Well, at least, I'd sure like to be in the very near future !!!!

Love ya', Glam!!!! {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}

[dl443322]

Hey friend, first, you will be ok. I know this. And no one knows what the future will bring. But I think it best for us to accept that right now our h's are not interested in working on the marriage.

Will it always be that way? No one knows. But we have to do our best to live our lives the best way we know how. We have to find happiness within ourselves. Because no matter how this all turns out, that really is the best thing we could do.

Thinking of you, my friend. Remember what a wonderful, generous person you are and how much you have to give to the world.

[glamgirl]

SC you will be just fine. Yes, you will need to accept that your h is gone right now and not at all interested in working on the m. That you will need to accept. Hard pill to swallow, but that is reality.

Once you step back, you don't know what might happen. By being kind and loving towards your h and leaving him be will help him heal and think and process his life. You never know then what he might be thinking and he could see you for who he fell in love with, but he CAN'T see that now.

You are a wonderful person, don't let this situation allow you to think otherwise.

[naej]

Hi SC just popped by to acknowledge your post on Beginners thread.
Thank you but no apologies necessary.
We all speak from the heart and give the best advice we can.
You are quite new to all this you may find like me that your views change a litle or a lot as time passes.
I wish you well.
Take care.

[Silent Chrleader]

...... Remember what a wonderful, generous person you are and how much you have to give to the world.

Yes, the world needs more crazy, large, loud mouthed, opinionated women like me!!!.......if only to keep it interesting!

I think I fell off my pedestal today with my "admirer" (the guy who hit on me, and came back looking for me when I got off the bus so abruptly a couple days ago). Today, I engaged him a discussion about politics. He actually liked GW ......... I'll leave it at that.

I know it's not considered good etiquette to discuss politics, religeon, or money. But, I have always liked real discussions on these types of topics. So long as everyone is respectful with differences of opinions, I think discussion is a good thing. These topics are what shows who we really are. I don't always want to talk about the weather or other "benign" subjects. I like real, inteligent conversation. And I even like to see diversity in people. I think that is enriching to my life.

Anyhoo........

Love ya', BM!!!

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[Silent Chrleader]

SC you will be just fine.

So long as they don't come and take me away to the loony bin!!!

... By being kind and loving towards your h and leaving him be will help him heal and think and process his life.

That's a good way to think about it.....we both need time to heal!


((((((GG))))))

[Silent Chrleader]

Hi, naej! Thank you for stopping by!!

.....you may find like me that your views change a litle or a lot as time passes.

I certainly hope so!!! Without change, one can't have real growth, and heaven knows I need to grow!!......well mentally and emotionally that is!

The truth is I could do with some more "shrinkage" on the physical side of things.....

[dl443322]

Hey SC, I too like a good intelligent discussion about different topics. And oh no, so he's the one who liked GW - oh well.

Anyway, i think the world does need more crazy, large, loud mouthed, opinionated women and men. Who wants normal, quiet people without any opinions!

So, now, enough apologizing. Time to dust yourself off and get back on the horse! And if you feel like you want to lose some weight (I want to also) then thats a great GAL or 180 or PMA. Start small - cut out one bad food and take it from there.

Let's do it together. Let's set a goal - 5 pounds by March 20th and see how we do - are you in?