WAW - Very confused and devestated - pt 2

[confusedinpa]

I did not know that you are bombarding her with suggestions on what to do (read that book, go to Retro, go to MC, vacation weekends etc etc). Stop that right now!

Instead of watching TV with her, go out with some friends and give her space. If you are really interested in that show, watch it in a different room. I am serious, you have to stop pursuing her. It will lead to absolutely nothing and will take the focus off of you. Let her come to you!

AN,

I had bombarded her with all the suggestions during the first 2 weeks she had told me she filed for divorce. We've had 3 sessions together with the new therapist. So in the last 2.5 weeks, I hadn't brought up any new suggestions. I had really liked your Retro suggestion, but couldn't figure out how to bring it up in time for the session coming up this weekend (I'm in the Philly suburbs). I'm really curious what you think of if when you come back.

My therapist yesterday told me that I need to express my feelings to her, don't ask for anything, but express how I'm hurt and frustrated that the she can't find it in her heart to forgive and give our marriage another chance.

I'm torn on that one, as that seems like a "high pressure" type of statement. Any thoughts?

Thanks