Dudess, ...you can't hear me say your name, but I've been told that I have an unusual way of pronouncing your nickname...perhaps putting my accent on the wrong syllable...kind of in a French way...
Those incendiary books really do cause a lot of trouble - and I think they just make it far, far too easy for anyone to keep looking for the solutions to their marital problems in their partner - rather than in themselves (at least that was the case with me). For some, the solution can lead to a more fulfilled and fulfilling marriage, for others, that solution can lead to a better sense of one's self...and, well, the end of a marriage.
Stosny seems to have a very sound view of what works and doesn't work - and I know that as I put too much focus on trying to figure out what ailed B (MLC, borderline, bipolar, etc), I kept myself distracted from looking at what was harming me in this R...
Leaving this house will be a good thing...and you are completely right - a home is built by love and a sense of value among all of us who live there - it's not in the beams and the walls or the trees...
I feel so very fortunate to have so many angels watching over me...
