Haven't tried the phone consult - read a few people's posts and they all seem positive about it helping, but I caution you again that nothing will fix things immediately. You can search some of the posts -wish I could remember which ones but I was gazing through a lot of them at the time so it is easy to do. Sounds like you doing a great job! Whether or not it works will tell in time - I hear between the lines that you really want things to turn around. Undoing is a process and requires adjustment the same as getting M. Again, because of the kids, things will be different between you. A D of your M doesn't mean your R doesn't continue - do you think she understands that point? Could you bring it up? HAve you asked her what she needs in the R in order to stay or work on it? Is it reasonable? I am sure you know what she needs. Talking doesn't mean you are needy either - you can still want to work out a R that works for both as parents and individuals. I taught my kids growing up that family is made up of people who help each other achieve their goals as much as possible - sacrificing one for another, making tough choices and setting priorities - doesn't always mean people get their own way. They didn't like my choices when young and don't always agree now - but we all know how to offer adjustments automatically when needed to make each other happy. My kids have gone a long way to be accepting of my H and his problems because of this teaching. I am proud of them but I wasn't popular with them earlier. How does this apply? Just trying to give you some perspective - a bit old fashioned advice but something to wonder about how to apply.
Again, search other postings randomly to see who else used the phone sessions. Happy reading.
