Iread your update and sympathize with you. If you haven't consulted a MC or a lawyer you might want to -but expect different info from each. Neither however, will fix your situation or stop your spouse like magic wand. Just take care of yourself and don't give up until it's over. There's always time to change things. But you need to be informed. I wouldn't suggest moving out of the home until things are final. NO matter how hard it is for you - it makes things easier for her and still harder for you. Find others to console you and vent to right now because she can't deal with it. You need to be ok. Focus on taking one day at a time and acceptance. Sounds like you are trying hard - she notices the changes - keep it up if it is real on your part. Regardless of what happens, you two will always be connected and in contact because of the kids. People think they will be happier or better parents in different situations - usually not.
