A little movement from H - he came by today when I was at work and took some of his clothes. He also removed a pile of stuff that's been sitting in the corner of the back room - "his room" - 2 old computer monitors we haven't used for years, a keyboard, and some random tech stuff.
It's not unusual for him to come by once a week. He's been taking care of his salt water aquarium like this ever since he left. He's also been taking my trash to the dump. But he's never removed anything until today. And, I'm sorry to say, when I saw what he had done I burst into tears. Completely unexpected, haven't cried for weeks, maybe even a month. A rush of pain and loss returned that was just like the very day he left.
So now I'm going over numerous questions like, what the F is he doing now? Does he think he can start systematically removing his things until, until what? Does he realize we're not even close to D? Is he going to get a job in the OW's state and just leave, D or not? Is he trying to make a statement?
My counterclaim says that I have possession of the house until something is settled and it also states that I'm "entitled to a Restraining Order" to keep him from "transferring, secreting, depleting, encumbering, damaging, or disposing of any assets during the pendency of this action."
I'm tempted to change the locks but..... then I'd have to take care of that damn fish tank, plus I really don't want to start a War of the Roses battle.
On the other hand, I do not want to come home every Wednesday now to find more of his belongings gone and then spend the rest of the night crying. So much for getting stronger.
Me 56 H 47 Married 21 years No children Bomb & moved out 4/07 "My feelings have changed" & "I want to live by myself". Ow Bomb 8/07 H filed 6/08 D final 2/05/10
