Well, XW did reply today and said that I needed to start "thinking about what was best for D" and "about D's future" and look to drop the pension stuff in exchange for her dropping claims I owe her money from the house.
She also said we should sell the ring and get cash "because money coming in and not out is good."
I replied that although I am worried about D's future too, we need to settle the pension issue so we can move forward w/out questions.
I let her know that divorces cause a lot of issues and this is just one that we need to settle no matter how we like it. I let her know that this was not an emotional decision, but a business decision and we need to settle it through the pension attorney even though we don't like spending more money.
I was calm and cool in my reply and stayed on the line of "the business of divorce" and reminded her that choices were made and now we have to finish the deal.
I finished by saying we both have another 10+ years to deal w/D's college and we both have 25 years or so to rebuild our retirement funds.
So, she wants to avoid the pension issue, but I'm going to pursue it because I really think she'll end up owing me some money. I can use it as a negotiating tool w/her but I'm not going to be swayed or bullied by her into dropping the pension issue.
So, she's not happy and I didn't get a reply. Surprised? I'm not.
On another note, I had a fallout w/my VP in December and I've been concerned for my job at school, so I talked w/my principal today and cleared the air. He said I don't have to worry as I'm coming back next year and the VP is good at a lot of things, but he's terrible w/interpersonal communication, so I don't need to worry about him.
That is such a relief so now I can concentrate on just doing my job and not worrying about being unemployed next year. Another stone off my shoulders w/only the pension and ring to settle before I can finally feel "free."
