Son and I made a sign and hug it on the inside of the garage door. I made it so that when Wife opens the door to park inside the sign comes down on a string. It says:
Smile.(with the picture of a smiley face).. Your home sweet home now .... And we love you.. Son & Doc...
Ok I hope I do not get banned but I read something in this book and It means sooo much I think others can use it.....
"You cannot change your spouse. As much as you may want to, you cannot play God and reach into their heart and mold them into what you want them to be. BUT that's what most couples spend a large part of their time trying to do... change their spouse.
Insanity has been described as doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. But isn't that what happens when you try to change your spouse?
You need to become a "wise farmer" A farmer cannot make a seed grow into a fruitful crop. He cannot argue, manipulate, or demand it to bear fruit. BUT he can plant the seed into fertile soil, give it water and nutrients, protect it from weeds and then turn it over to God.
Wow, this is deep. Doc is changing... The OM is becoming a distant memory. Watching my Wife grow is all I want to do now. The funny thing is that all I am doing is changing me. I am clearing myself of the weeds. Most of the "caring things" I have done in the past were a forms of manipulation. I am not sure what is happening to me but it has had a dramatic affect on my life as a whole. At home, at work out in the public. Like I said before my mind and mouth are no longer on auto pilot. I think about what I am thinking. I analyze thoughts I have to see if they are worth my time to worry about. My words are chosen wisely. I say what I need to say without any added garbage. Any "side notes" peppered with snide remarks about issues that are not pertinent to the conversation..I am probably not making any sense to anyone but all I know is I really like what I am becoming.
Later Doc
P.S PLEASE do not ban me for the stuff from the book. Delete this post if you want but please do not ban me..
Thanks
And if I claim to be a wise man, well It surely means that I don't know
