Saffie's right. I was unhappy for a long time. I may have rewritten some of the marital history to justify the affair I had eventually. But, I was unhappy. My H knew I was unhappy. He was unhappy. We had tried counseling. We talked a lot. I told him what I needed. He knew. He was passive-aggressive and told me what he needed in that manner. We both did not try to fix our marriage in a healthy manner, and the counselor we saw was not pro marriage. I was not the "type" of person to do this. I was not the "type" to NOT look inwardly. I was lonely, frustrated, vunerable. I made really bad choices, and fell to someone who seemed to fill every void. The OM was NOT better looking, he was NOT financially stable, he was NOT a reliable person, he was NOT a BETTER choice. He was a man that came loved me when I was in need of a kind of love I was not getting, and no one was telling me that my marriage could be saved. In fact, I heard the latter from my enabling girlfriend and was given bad advice from my counselor.
