My H wanted to give us a second chance and invited me to stay at his place for a few months. To start with he was nice and prepared everything for my arrival in such a nice way. But after a while he started again telling me about his old problems such as aging, not liking to be with older and old people, etc. and telling me awful things about how I looked. On the other hand he was jealous and did not like me to wear low cut t-shorts or dresses. He was almost always cold and distant and was bossing me about all the time. When he got grumpy and moody he told me that it had nothing to do with me but with his life and things not going the way he wanted them to go.
He did not want to go to MC or therapy although MIL and I suggested it. He did not want to do anything about improving our sitch. And on top of it he was still in touch with OW while living with me, and I found out later that he wrote to a friend he still loved her and missed her and he was worried that she would find somebody else in the meantime.
I had the feeling that he just invited me so that he had a cleaning lady and a cook and had some company as he hates to be lonely. He even made up some story and asked me to leave about one month earlier. Later on he told me that there just was no spark in our R anymore!
