I was not looking. I was looking for conversation with people, and not in a chat room or "place to meet people" I was just talking with people about a similar hobby and interest. I did my best to even hide my gender! When people knew it, I fended off any of "that" kind of attention abruptly. I became friends with someone with innocent intentions, and I fell in love with THAT person.
Was I very unhappy in my M? Yes. Had I communicated this fact? Yes. Had we had problems off and on for years? Yes. Did I try even harder to communicate that fact after I met this person? YES! Did I think I was capable of getting involved with another person or having an A? Absolutely not. Did I rewrite my marital history? No, I did not.
Do I think I will do it again? NO.
So. Take that for what it's worth. I wasn't "that type of person." I was completely judgmental of people who "were." I'm less likely to judge all situations as the same now. All affairs are wrong...but they aren't all the same. Circumstances played a part in my sitch because it felt "safe" to be conversing with this person living in another city, so I crossed some emotional boundaries that I never would have with a man in "real life." I never imagined it would snowball into what it did.
As to the original poster...I would take your wife at her word. If she says it would have been someone eventually, then I suppose it would have.
Why has she had to say this multiple times though? What answer are you looking for?
