Thanks for the update. I ws wondering about you. Piece of advice about H's password to phone. He changed it, so don't try to get it. Having the p/w you will use it and it will keep you drawn into the mess. My H changed his p/w to his bank account and you know I was happy b/c I was constantly checking up on how much he was spending on OW and kids and it was just driving me mad. Now that I have no access, its something less to get me upset.
By the way, I know this whole thing is so maddening, but try really hard not to inquire about H's nonesense. Leave him alone in a sense. I read somewhere that negative attention is still attention so try not to give his crap any attention. Self control. This doesn't mean that you wil always be able to, I know that too well. But you goal has got to be to maintain your peace by any means and that means letting him deal with his crap by himself. If he's hiding something, it will come out eventually if it will affect you and your D. Protect your sanity as much as possible and that means not being pulled in. H will notice. I think our H's in a strange way like it when we get all worked up and pry and give them the attention that they are seeking in their own distructive way.
And, I don't think that you should get to OW. Not sure what you mean get to either. But I also got into several confrontations with OW and you know what, it was so useless. In fact H defended OW which made me feel even worse. Remember your H and OW are allies now. Also, your H's OW has a H of her own so that just tells her morals. And she will not really care about you. So I would say don't even waste your time based on my experience.
